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Hi Ladies!
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8/28/2006 at 3:02 (CT)
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Shel
email: shel@iparenting.com
8/9/2006 at 22:33 (CT)
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Because the real source of your problem is your parenting values clashing with your husband's, the most important thing to do first is to sit with him and see what you do agree on discipline-wise. Write down some forms of discipline that you think are effective, and he can nix some or agree with others. When disciplining kids, you need to form a united front. If you cannot agree on any method of discipline, it may help to visit a seasoned couple together, whose parenting skills you admire, to discuss your dilemma. |
Sally
email: gsbzhanan@hotmail.com
8/6/2006 at 11:30 (CT)
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I have many issues as a parent but I dont have all day to vent. I have a 14 year old and a 12 year old both girls. They seem to think that thehy run my life and they do whatever they want. I discipline them my way but I have a clashing fest with my husband about how he handles it. They will not talk to my husband and either will he. How to I get everyone to be happy talking and doing things together like when they were kids. I know when they get older things change. It is effecting my marriage |
erin
email: vitati02@aim.com
8/2/2006 at 0:54 (CT)
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How can I help my 12 year old daughter to enjoy life more and not think her life sucks? |
Mysti
email: iluvmy3js@cox.net
8/1/2006 at 12:12 (CT)
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......continued from previous message.
I have fullty cooperated with the police and social services. I have tried to get my ex to the counselors whitch if the coulselors go her way she'l go if they start putting any type of blame her way she is done. My ex will come to me for advise with our daughter but won't apply it. I have told her to become more active in her life and she will for a week or 2 then she is done. She underminds what me and wife tell the kids and works through the kids to get to me. I do not do ANY form of this because it's wrong and will have a negative effect on the kids in the end. I'm up on the wall and need some help. I want to move so that my ex won't have any way of getting to our daughter we can then get our daughter where she needs to be HAPPY!!!!!!!!!! care free and FREE thinking. We start counseling in a week. So I hope this will help. My son now wants nothing to do with me.Whitch as my ex knows has hurt me to where it can't be fixed. he is onlt 13 but she is letting him make the adult decisions. My son and have had a great relationship till this, I call through the week and can about his friends girl friends problems,I was always a part of his life.I love deeply my son and have thought of him any other way. Again any advise I would greatly appreciate. Thanx |
Jack W.
email: JackW.@microsoft.com or WhitestineJ@AOL.
7/16/2006 at 4:54 (CT)
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My 11 yr old daughter decided to accuse me (her full custody father) of the unthinkable. First no way did,would ,could ANY thing of this sort happen!!! I go to the library for information in books, I talk to friends family about anything that I need help with for her. Her mother once a month gives me and my wife some sort of crap about the kids (my ex- and I have a bilogical daughter whom I'm talking about, also I have been the father to her son my step-son who is my son I video taped him coming out the shoot.)about nothing. We have tried eveything to get along and thought we were on the right track but for a million reason we can think of here we are. My ex-wife should have called me forst when this came about but tryring to get back in our duaghters good graces she took her with no question. Our daughter has a history of lying but she doesn't know this because she has no relationship with our daughter.Our duaghter has turned her in to the school for abuse whitch I stood by my ex- because I've known her since 7th grade.
All allegations have been found unfouned and we are supposed to go back to normal, but I'm not sure how we do that ANY suggestoins would be a great help. I want to hug my daughterand forgive everything,but I went through a-lot and I'm affraid of this repeating in some form. She is at my parents house for now but we want to get our family back. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
Jack
email: JackW. @microsoft.com or WhitestineJ@AOL
7/16/2006 at 4:36 (CT)
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My 10 year old step daughter told me last night that she often thinks of running away from home. Not becasue she is unhappy but, just to see what that experience would be like. Where do you go aith this one?? Also, she is having a lot of trouble sharing myself and her dad with her little brother. We have her full time and her brother half time. By the end of five days she will go into pre-bedtime hysterics with crying fits and yelling that no one loves her and that she needs attention. Honestly, I spend so much time with her that I rarely ever am alone unless she is at a freinds house or sleeping.
Not sure how to address these things...
K. |
Karrina
email: Karrina@kontney.com
4/24/2006 at 1:59 (CT)
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Devon:
Have you tried writting down on paper what you are feeling and your questions for your mom to read? Maybe write down how you feel about needing to talk to her but how she always changes the subject. Let her know that if she refuses to acknowledge your questions or address your issues than she needs to refer a good family friend or someone else you both trust to answer them. Tell her you need her to respond and it's okay if you only talk through letters. Leave the letter out for her to see before you leave for school so she can read it and take the day to answer.
It can be hard talking to children about grown up issues but it needs to be done. A letter is a great way for people to communicate without the awkwardness of looking at eachother. You can be totally open and she can be straight forward. If it's embarrassing for your mom to talk to you about it, then don't do it face to face.....talk via letters.
Your in the toughest part of childhood and you don't want to find answers out on your own from friends or tv because it can be misguiding or not correct. And don't strike up any conversations with strangers on the internet to find out answers because it is not safe.
I am sure your mom does care about your problems and questions but she may not know how to answer them. Hope this helps! |
Karrie
email: momwithtwins2004@yahoo.ca
4/7/2006 at 6:36 (CT)
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11 yr daughter / 20 mth twin boys
Patti:
Don't be afraid to look into the questions you have regarding your ex husband and your daughter. It does sound "weird" to me and the whole situation sounds disturbing.
The last thing you want is to have regrets....if you have concerns......tell someone. It's better to be verbal about safety issues with children and be wrong than to be silent and find out you were right all along. Do what you can to show your daughter that you do in fact have her best interestes at heart and that she needs to be home with you.
Elsie:
My 11 yr old daughter too has begun to lie about insignificant things and she denies all. She could say something innapropriate right to my face but totally deny it 2 seconds later and lie about it. She lies to her friends, Grandparents and myself all the time. I don't know where it came from and don't know how to go about correcting it. If it suited her, she would try to convince me the grass was pink not green.
If any one has had this problem as well, tips and advice on how to stop a pre-teen from lying 24/7 would be appreciated.
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Karrie
email: momwithtwins2004@yahoo.ca
4/6/2006 at 4:12 (CT)
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My daughter who is 15 and in her 1st year of high school is unpopular. We moved to a new home in her 8th grade year. She had always been in private school and so we put her in private school in our new area. Because she has a learning disability she has trouble understanding subtle social cues. Now she virtually has no one in school. She is not a stupid child or hard to get along with if you get to know her. She is really out going at home and at dance. She just has trouble with the girls at school snubbing her. She really has no one and she cries. I am at a loss for what to do. She is going to try out for cheerleading in April so I hope that will help. But I am worried that even when she gets on the team she will still be snubbed...please help. |
Julie
email: julmull@msn.com
2/14/2006 at 6:57 (CT)
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Is there a way that my inquiry about my daughter wouldn't be published in the google search? I just typed in my name and there it was... even my email address. I would appreciate it very much if you could do something about it. I don't have this problem anymore so I just thought that there might be a bigger problem if my daughter gets to see this thing in google.
Hoping for your help.
Thank you
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T Casten
email: jtcasten@yahoo.com
2/2/2006 at 7:51 (CT)
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hi, i have a 12 yr old son who has been showing intrest on girls lately..
he does good in school as far as his grades but he has gotten in trouble for being too close to the girls . at home he wants to be on the phone all the time and on the weekends he always want to go the movies and the Mall with his friends and their parents ...the parents go sometimes , other times i drop them off or his friends parents do.. recently i have found out that he likes to go to the movies and the
Mall just to meet up with some girls..i don't really know how to react to all this ....should i be too worried about him trying to have sex at this age ? how can i really talk to him ? thanks |
red
email: liltorro76@yahoo.com
1/30/2006 at 12:12 (CT)
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My daughter's 11 and I just realized recently that she's already attracted to the opposite sex. She's been talking to the boy asking about him masturbating or sometimes if he's getting a stiffy or if he would like to touch her boobs and other things like that. She took pictures of her boobs one time and she quickly snatched the camera from my hand. I don't know whether that's a normal behaviour or if this promiscuity is a result of her being sexually abused when she was 10 by a close family friend. I am really troubled. Can anyone help me? |
Teresa Casten
email: jtcasten@yahoo.com
1/2/2006 at 16:06 (CT)
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Actually I'm not a mom,I'm a preteen girl,but this is about my mom. I'm totally uninformed,and when I try to spark a conversation on,you know,certain things,my mom rolls her eyes and changes the subject.It causes embarrasment for us both,so we don't talk and I know pretty much nothing.How can I get my mom to talk to me? |
Devon
email: dadsdev@att.net
11/30/2005 at 8:54 (CT)
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You can make an anonymous call to child protective services about the concerns you have about your ex-husband. In addition, you can excercise your rights as the custodial parent through family court in order to bring your daughter back to live with you. |
Goldi
email:
11/11/2005 at 10:08 (CT)
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I am brokenhearted. My daughter 13, chose to leave my home almost 4 weeks ago because of a disagreement I had with her. She was rude to her stepfather, my husband on the phone, and I corrected her, didn't even plan to discipline her. I just wanted her to know I heard her. She called my ex-husband, her father, and he has taken her to his home and will not let me have her back and will not let me call the house to talk to her. I miss her terribly, and we have always had what I thought a good relationship, even though her relationship with my husband has been less than stellar. I should add that my husband and I separated 2 weeks before this happened, not because of anything having to do with her, but our son that we have together. My husband and I were both abused as children, I grew up knowing instinctively that physical violence against children is wrong, as opposed to him, who feels as though I was too lenient on my 3 girls from my first marriage, and now thinks that spanking our son is acceptable. I have to stress here that he was never physically violent towards my 13 yr old daughter, but he does yell a lot which neither of us can stand. He was visiting our son in my home when she was rude with him on the phone. I explained to her that he had not moved back, he was visiting and I felt she was rude and disrespectful and even though she may not like him very much, she should not be disrespectful. At the time she apologized to me, I told her she owed my husband an apology, and that was it. Then the next thing I knew she had called her dad to come pick her up and she was gone. Now, if I thought her father was a better parent, I would be ok with it. But #1 I have no access to her and I am the custodial parent according to the divorce agreement. #2, he disowned an older daughter for much the same reasons I am having problems with this daughter. Now what happens when he has had enough of her, will he disown her, then I have to pick up the pieces like I did with the older sister? He has already threatened to disown the other 2 if they do not do as he says. #3 concern: the daughter he disowned, lived with him for a time in her late teens. He started taking her out to bars drinking with him and his friends, and he started "hooking up" with her friends. He has left her at bars, inebriated at times, to take her friends out to the car in the parking lot for "groping"sessions, as the young girls called it. He also, when I was 9 months pregnant with daughter #2 had a 16 year old girl calling him at home on his days off from his dishwasher job at a resturant where she was a waitress (this was many years ago, but he was 26, and she was 16!) She even baked him a cake at the time and the words on the cake were "happy birthday sexy". now, I would not characterize it as a sexual relationship, because I don't know for sure, but if he did that would make him a pedophile. and given his propensity for young girls, I don't think my 13 yr old daughter is in the right environment. This man is now 49 years old and he dates 20 year old women. Also, up until very recently, he was sleeping in the same bed as my daughter when she had visitation. He also lied to her about his girlfriends, when he would tell his older daughters and myself the truth, he lied to this younger daughter because "she didnt want him to date". I think this is very unhealthy. Can anyone relate, and do I have a case in the courts? |
patti
email: treharpj@upmc.edu
11/3/2005 at 0:15 (CT)
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my ten year took to lying some months back.He lies about most things and for no apparent reason. it has gotten so bad i find myself questioning everything he tells me. it is affecting our relationship |
Elsie
email: elsiedennis@yahoo.com
10/31/2005 at 11:09 (CT)
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I am so exhausted from the power struggles I have wtih my daughters, ages 12 and 7. My husband is too strict and just doesn't even listen, while I know exactly how they feel but we have to be consistent with discipline. Does it get better anytime soon? |
Pam
email: pamalama@cableone.net
10/28/2005 at 10:38 (CT)
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